|Posted by Admin on January 8, 2014 at 2:10 AM|
Boobs, tits, breasts, fun bags...whatever name you know them by, they’ve certainly been the subject on everyone’s lips lately (articles here and here from BBC amongst many to hit the headlines since June 2013).
So boobs are bad. They are bad and they shouldn’t be seen. They should be covered up in news stands and promotional PR alike. In fact, they shouldn’t be in newspapers at all. It’s degrading to women. That’s the gist of all the hysteria revolving around the female anatomy of late. That’s right I said hysteria.
Personally, I find it patronising to assume grown women are degraded by their chosen profession. I find it arrogant to assume that as women, we are so vulnerable within a democratic (supposedly free) society that we must be told what to wear (and what to keep on). What alarms me most is it is mostly women pushing this ill thought out campaign of pointlessness.
Isn’t this kind of attitude a step back toward blaming the woman’s choice of clothing for causing the actions of a man?
Upon recently advertising for a glamour model to pose for some raunchy pictures with an actor for one of the TV shows I’ve written, it didn’t take long for the trolls to jump aboard the band wagon posting links to articles and swinging around unfounded sexism accusations. The MALE troll telling me what is sexist to my own gender set alarm bells ringing for me. This anti sexism campaign is quickly backfiring and setting back the rights of women everywhere.
At first, I patiently pointed out he was assuming details and that the show in question was written by me - a gay woman, that we had a strong LGBT crew and cast and that the pictures would be within the context of the show’s PR and carried out by consenting adults. Obviously, this made no difference and I began to lose my patience with this man - who of course knew the perils of sexism toward women much better than I. (I assume because as a woman I can’t possibly have a valuable opinion on the subject).
I pointed out the irony in his own sexism in dictating to women what was sexist for women to do but still, the troll made no effort to sway from his path. It seemed not only in his eyes I should not be able to enrol women to pose in anything but fully clothed pictures but that also it was degrading to portray women as being strong, sexually confident people. My argument finished by advising him to get a hobby (I suggested can collecting) and saying how very dare he tell women what is sexist when it’s we (women) who live with real sexism every day. The gender pay gap that is reportedly worsening being one example and being told to cover up being the other that comes to my mind immediately.
To my surprise, not only did both women and men join me in defence of women’s choice to enter into glamour based careers but my inbox quickly filled up with female friends recommending glamour models and even family members who would love to help out on the project! They mentioned they had been following the argument and wanted to make sure the project went ahead. (I later thanked the troll for all his help in drawing attention to my facebook ad.)
In my opinion, this entire anti topless argument is in danger of becoming a slippery slope from protecting the image of women to dictatorship and censorship. What will follow? Prison for pornography? A blanket ban on women showing their faces in public? Cutting off the entire internet? Or a return to the attitude we should all be in the kitchen? As a democracy, we must be careful to find balance, respect and tolerance of the great responsibilities that come with its benefits.
I have failed to find a single female in my diverse social circle who is remotely interested in campaigning against topless women and glamour models. These women in the articles do not seem to represent the majority of women who favour an open approach to careers in glamour – mainly we’re talking all about CHOICE. In fact the pictures of these campaigners (ironically wearing two scarves in summer, I suspect because they are so self conscious about their own bodies) do not resonate with me one bit.
Personally, I love boobs. There is no such thing as a bad boob (a subject I recently tried to explain after several drinks to a gay male friend – who I’m sure I scarred for life). It doesn’t matter how bad a day I’m having, even the word ‘boobs’ brings a smile to my face. I think there should be a page 3 and maybe even a page 4 or 5 too! The glamour model I eventually found was a happy, enthusiastic 29 year old recommended by a female friend of mine (her older sister). She told me how she really enjoyed the line of work and was so excited about it she sat up all night in case she slept in for the shoot! When the article went out with the pictures in the Sun, my inbox and phone became inundated with messages saying how sexy the pictures are and how exciting it was to see the show launching. I hasten to mention that every one of the messages were from women, some gay, some straight but all really enthusiastic about the pictures, so enthusiastic in fact that no one mentioned the notorious bank robber (given a small acting role) who was actually the story’s main feature!
After the story went public, more of my female friends began freely volunteering to work on similar glamour jobs just for fun. They are confident, intelligent women who are unashamed to throw off these tired restrictions and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and support the right for women to choose. Real women, with real bodies and confidence in spades, surely nothing on this earth is sexier? And why should they not be proud to show their bodies if they want to?
Let’s not go backwards. Let’s not allow ourselves to take a leap back into the dark ages. The female form is beautiful, vibrant and surely only its owner should make the choice about how much of it to show off.
Breasts make the world a better place. But will censorship?
I also want to change the way women are portrayed by the media, it’s one thing I do have in common with those woolly, double scarved protestors. Instead of focusing on how much cleavage they choose to show, I write diverse, strong female-led storylines. In them the women don’t just exist to be a love interest for the leading man; instead we see how they build and shape the very world around them and - more importantly - how they feel and what they want from life. The choices these characters make are their own and aren’t overshadowed by overbearing male characters. Granted, sometimes they might just choose to get their tits out but why wouldn’t they? They represent real women.
The entertainment industry is changing; make sure you’re on the right side of the debate. It’s your body, your choice. And if you must wear large woolly scarves, for the love of God at least colour co ordinate!
What are your thoughts? Should page three stay or go? Is there such a thing as a bad boob? Are boobs bad?